WTF??? So, I was watching the Tyra Show about a week or so ago and for the first time heard about this website that totally made me sick to my stomach 'Ashleymadison.com' This website's slogan is "Life is short. Have an affair." Need I say more???
It's a dating website that actually promotes adultery. Wow! I don't know about you, but I'm amazed that someone was foolish and heartless enough to run this type of business. Who might this man be? The founder and chief executer of this site is Noel Biderman.
No, Ashley Madison is not a real person. He created that name because at the time he was putting together the site... Ashley and Madison were the top 2 baby girl names. The site is free to join, but you are charged every time you chat with another member.
It seems as if this poor excuse of a man tries to rationalize his wrong doings by saying he's trying to help those who are unhappy in their marriages find happiness again by cheating. Really? Not only is this immoral,but it's taking the easy way out and of course when you cheat... It's going to turn around and bite you in the ass. He makes millions off of people who are destroying their lives. What has happened to our society? Does anyone have morals nowadays? Whatever happened to "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you"?
Infidelity is not the answer to fixing your problems. By doing this, you are only making the situation worse. I may be young... but I have an old soul. Call me old fashion but I believe once you make that commitment to each other under God... You work through the issues you may have as a unit... Never run away. Those vows you made ""till death do us part" is not something you just say for the hell of it. Noel Biderman can say all he wants about finding happiness on his site... and blah blah blah! BULL! Once your husband/wife finds out, you are as good as gone... and even if he/she do decides to keep you around, it will never be the same. The trust will be gone and neither one of you will be able to forget such betrayal. If you even think of pursuing a relationship with the person you cheated with (more than likely someone who didn't have morals either) don't be surprised, honey, when you're cheated on too. You can't expect someone to be faithful to you, if they cheated on their wives/husbands with you. That's just common sense, right?
I cannot judge anyone's relationship because I don't know what you've been through. Maybe you married a psycho? cheater? someone who abuses you? Well, you probably should have gotten to know them a little better before marrying them anyhow. Whatever the case may be, committing adultery is not the way to go. If you've been to marriage counseling, tried to work things out on your own and you've explored all other options and yet you still feel like your marriage is way beyond repair, then at the very LAST resort, Get a divorce....unless your life is in jeopardy in which case you should call the police and get a divorce immediately (you can never change someone who is abusive).
I'm not sure if you realized this by now, but life is not going to always be peachy. The sun is not always going to shine bright. I've been with my "love bug" for 5 years now and sometimes I feel like karate chopping him in the throat (chaa!) or cutting the booty part out of all his jeans. no??? that's just me? oh.... well, all I am saying is any relationship has its roller coasters. Some days you're up, and some days you're down....and some days they make you want to vomit (like when you pass gas, babe!) No one said marriage was going to be easy. Everyone is so caught up on the actual wedding day and not really looking beyond that point. Yes.... the wedding dress, the cake, the photography, floral, and all the other arrangements that make the day so appealing is every girls... no let me correct that... lots of little girls dreams. It shouldn't be your main focus any how. The actual union of you should be the only important thing that matters. Don't say yes unless you mean it and you actually see a future with this person. Marrying someone is easy... making a marriage work with someone was was never meant to be your spouse is the hard part. Actually, no marriage is easy all the the time, but it takes dedication and those who live by their vows, believe in their spouse, and look past any flaws to make a successful marriage. I am not at all saying I know exactly what makes the perfect marriage... because I don't. No one does. I am just giving my own opinion.
More children are growing up in unstable homes because of their parents. What kind of example are they setting by cheating on their spouse... creating hostile environments? This usually ends up leaving these children to be raised in a broken home. The parents end up resenting each other and kids see these things. They are not as clueless as what you may think.
Noel Bidderman tries to justify infidelity by stating that those people who cheat love their families and doesn't want to get a divorce especially if they have children...because the children are the real victims here "Right?" Riiight... The children are always the victims in any divorce but if you think for one second that being dishonest and betraying your family is any better, then I am sorry...but you are an idiot. Eventually when your spouse finds out... and they will find out (kharma works that way) do you think things will go any smoother? Do you think the divorce wouldn't be even more nastier and messy than it would have been if you didn't cheat? What happened to people having common sense?
It irritates me so much for people to hurt others without a single ounce of remorse or even take responsibility for their actions. When they cheat, it's always because of something their significant other had done to provoke this like...wait...this is my favorite "he wouldn't say i'm beautiful" or "he doesn't pay attention to me". Oooh- cry me a river, build a bridge and get the **** over it! Maybe all that whining is keeping him/her from seeing all that beauty they once seen in you. Ummm... sorry... that was pretty mean:( BAD CHRISTAL (smacking my own hand) Maybe you need to take a long look at yourself and just think "Do I do everything I used to do to get my lady/man hooked in the beginning? Do I take his/her feelings in consideration? Am i always there for that person?" Some people would answer yes to those questions not realizing that they really don't. People have a hard time expressing their emotions-actually this is more about the men- so just because he doesn't say it all the time, doesn't mean that he doesn't see it. Maybe something happened at work or there is something on his/her mind keeping them distant. Just try to communicate...sometimes that doesn't work because not everyone likes to talk about their problems. All you can do is be there for that person when they are ready to come around. Sometimes, it just take you to be the bigger person and make that first step in meeting them halfway.
I really wish that these people would shut down the AshleyMadison website. It's immoral and it breaks up many homes. Infidelity has been around forever... but this site only makes it easier to do so. They are pretty much suggesting that it's ok to cheat..."everyone's doing it". Once again...
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" alls i'm saying!
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