Ashley Madison.com- The Dating Website for Those Who are Already Married???

WTF???  So, I was watching the Tyra Show about a week or so ago and for the first time heard about this website that totally made me sick to my stomach 'Ashleymadison.com'  This website's slogan is "Life is short. Have an affair." Need I say more??? 

It's a dating website that actually promotes adultery. Wow! I don't know about you, but I'm amazed that someone was foolish and heartless enough to run this type of business. Who might this man be? The founder and chief executer of this site is Noel Biderman. 

No, Ashley Madison is not a real person. He created that name because at the time he was putting together the site... Ashley and Madison were the top 2 baby girl names. The site is free to join, but you are charged every time you chat with another member.

It seems as if this poor excuse of a man tries to rationalize his wrong doings by saying he's trying to help those who are unhappy in their marriages find happiness again by cheating. Really? Not only is this immoral,but it's taking the easy way out and of course when you cheat... It's going to turn around and bite you in the ass. He makes millions off of people who are destroying their lives. What has happened to our society? Does anyone have morals nowadays?  Whatever happened to "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you"?  

Infidelity is not the answer to fixing your problems. By doing this, you are only making the situation worse. I may be young... but I have an old soul. Call me old fashion but I believe once you make that commitment to each other under God... You work through the issues you may have as a unit... Never run away. Those vows you made ""till death do us part" is not something you just say for the hell of it.  Noel Biderman can say all he wants about finding happiness on his site... and blah blah blah! BULL! Once your husband/wife finds out, you are as good as gone... and even if he/she do decides to keep you around, it will never be the same. The trust will be gone and neither one of you will be able to forget such betrayal. If you even think of pursuing a relationship with the person you cheated with (more than likely someone who didn't have morals either) don't be surprised, honey, when you're cheated on too. You can't expect someone to be faithful to you, if they cheated on their wives/husbands with you. That's just common sense, right? 

I cannot judge anyone's relationship because I don't know what you've been through. Maybe you married a psycho? cheater? someone who abuses you? Well, you probably should have gotten to know them a little better before marrying them anyhow.  Whatever the case may be, committing adultery is not the way to go. If you've been to marriage counseling, tried to work things out on your own and you've explored all other options  and yet you still feel like your marriage is way beyond repair, then at the very LAST resort, Get a divorce....unless your life is in jeopardy in which case you should call the police and get a divorce immediately (you can never change someone who is abusive).

I'm not sure if you realized this by now, but life is not going to always be peachy. The sun is not always going to shine bright. I've been with my "love bug" for 5 years now and sometimes I feel like karate chopping him in the throat (chaa!) or cutting the booty part out of all his jeans. no??? that's just me? oh.... well, all I am saying is any relationship has its roller coasters. Some days you're up, and some days you're down....and some days they make you want to vomit (like when you pass gas, babe!) No one said marriage was going to be easy. Everyone is so caught up on the actual wedding day and not really looking beyond that point. Yes.... the wedding dress, the cake, the photography, floral, and all the other arrangements that make the day so appealing is every girls... no let me correct that... lots of little girls dreams. It shouldn't be your main focus any how. The actual union of you should be the only important thing that matters. Don't say yes unless you mean it and you actually see a future with this person. Marrying someone is easy... making a marriage work with someone was was never meant to be your spouse is the hard part. Actually, no marriage is easy all the the time, but it takes dedication  and those who live by their vows, believe in their spouse, and look past any flaws to make a successful marriage. I am not at all saying I know exactly what makes the perfect marriage... because I don't. No one does. I am just giving my own opinion. 

More children are growing up in unstable homes because of their parents. What kind of example are they setting by cheating on their spouse... creating hostile environments? This usually ends up leaving these children to be raised in a broken home. The parents end up resenting each other and kids see these things. They are not as clueless as what you may think.

Noel Bidderman tries to justify infidelity by stating that those people who cheat love their families and doesn't want to get a divorce especially if they have children...because the children are the real victims here "Right?" Riiight... The children are always the victims in any divorce but if you think for one second that being dishonest and betraying your family is any better, then I am sorry...but you are an idiot. Eventually when your spouse finds out... and they will find out (kharma works that way) do you think things will go any smoother? Do you think the divorce wouldn't be even more nastier and messy than it would have been if you didn't cheat? What happened to people having common sense?

It irritates me so much for people to hurt others without a single ounce of remorse or even take responsibility for their actions. When they cheat, it's always because of something their significant other had done to provoke this like...wait...this is my favorite "he wouldn't say i'm beautiful" or "he doesn't pay attention to me". Oooh- cry me a river, build a bridge and get the **** over it! Maybe all that whining is keeping him/her from seeing all that beauty they once seen in you. Ummm... sorry... that was pretty mean:(   BAD CHRISTAL (smacking my own hand)  Maybe you need to take a long look at yourself and just think "Do I do everything I used to do to get my lady/man hooked in the beginning? Do I take his/her feelings in consideration? Am i always there for that person?" Some people would answer yes to those questions not realizing that they really don't. People have a hard time expressing their emotions-actually this is more about the men- so just because he doesn't say it all the time, doesn't mean that he doesn't see it. Maybe something happened at work or there is something on his/her mind keeping them distant. Just try to communicate...sometimes that doesn't work because not everyone likes to talk about their problems. All you can do is be there for that person when they are ready to come around. Sometimes, it just take you to be the bigger person and make that first step in meeting them halfway. 

I really wish that these people would shut down the AshleyMadison website. It's immoral and it breaks up many homes. Infidelity has been around forever... but this site only makes it easier to do so. They are pretty much suggesting that it's ok to cheat..."everyone's doing it". Once again... 

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" alls i'm saying!

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Children Today

What has happened with our youth today? Kids now-a-days are irresponsible, selfish, spoiled, and just down right disrespectful. Now, I am not saying that ALL children are like this (there are those sweeties) and I'm not say this didn't exist in the past, but it has become more of an issue today.

Parents have become more of a "friend" to their children than being a parent. People believe that if you spank your child it's abuse, they will grow to resent you, yada yada yada. Well, I think otherwise. I'm going to be truthful... I do not have any children but I have about 17 nieces and nephews... And I've pretty much watched them grow up... And let me tell u.... They KNOW if they don't do right... they would hear about it from their parents. They are the most cheerful, respectful, intelligent kids I've EVER known... And its because my sisters/brothers are PARENTS first and FRIEND second... But like I said... I have no children so I cannot in any way say my way is the right way. People will raise their children however they want. If I've already offended you in any way... U may not want to read on. :(

When I was a child.... If I even attempted to raise my voice at my father or if I got into any trouble...yes, I did get my a** whipped. NOT BEATEN- there is a difference. Not enough to where I would bruise or couldn't sit down, but enough to make me NEVER want to do it again. When I ran into a situation that I knew would get me into some trouble if my dad found out... I would think twice about it. No... I did not always do the right thing... Who does? However, I did learn my lesson afterwards.

Also, there was no privacy at my father's house. We had our own room but you couldn't hide anything from my dad. He wouldn't go in our room searching for stuff, but if one day...he did decide to go through our things... We knew we didn't have any say so... So why take the chance? If he wanted to enter at will, then that's exactly what he would do. There was no making bombs or bringing and hiding drugs in my daddy's house! I read about this teenager in southwest Ohama who had made a bomb in his grandfather's house. It had went off mistakenly in the house (kitchen)-the grandfather was also home during this time. The teenager was injured- he was bleeding from his arm and a cut on the head... A few other scratches here and there. He was taken to the hospital, but once he was discharged, the police arrested the 14 year old for possession of an explosive device... Which, by the way, is a felony. He told the police that the bomb had went off by mistake while trying to take a picture of it.

When the grandfather was asked if he knew about his grandson building the bomb he said he did not know his grandson was doing something like that. He also stated that he's a good boy and probably did it to impress his friends.

The neighbors painted a different picture when they told police the teenager had been in trouble numerous times and police had been called out prior to this incident. The grandfather states "a kid being a kid... And he gets in trouble over it."

Can you say, "ENABLER?" You have to be kidding, right? A kid being a kid? First of all... Kids don't just make bombs... It's not an extra curriculum activity. No responsible parent would have this going on under their roof and not know it. That's why I say.... Screw Their Privacy! Once they have their own house and paying some bills... Then should they have the right to do what they want and not have to inform you of it. This case could have turned out a lot more tragic than what it was. Someone could have gotten hurt or even worse... Killed.

Take control of your household people. These young kids are on the internet and posting dirty photos of themselves, lying about their age in most cases, and chatting with older men/women. It's good to trust your children... But don't be an idiot. Don't you realize that you are making it more convenient for sexual predators to abduct your own children?
Another thing that bugs the hell out of me is seeing these young girls dressing like **excuse me** whores and wearing heavy makeup... Wtf? Do parents actually just let these kids walk out the door like that? Wow! That brings me to child pageantry. Shame on these mothers!!!!! Don't they realize that this is objectifying woman as sexual object and nothing more? These mothers paint these little girl's face in make-up galore, they put chemicals like dye in there hair, tans, acrylic nails, eyebrow waxing...they go the whole 9miles to make them look like "women". Not to mention... There's always a swimsuit contest. What is the point to parade little girls around in swim wear? Hmmmm... Makes u wonder? Who ever even thought about toddler bikinis? SICK!

Well, back on subject... If you don't put your child in his/her place while u still can, you'll have bigger problems later. I respect my daddy for how we were raised. I'm a better person because of him. I used to get upset back then of course... But it paid off. He taught me the difference between right and wrong. He didn't believe in spoiling his children... We received only what we needed and we had to earn what we wanted -which not only made us responsible but also made us even more appreciative and grateful of everything we do have as adults today.

Instead of turning your children into spoiled little brats... Make them earn what they want. I know this may offend some of you... But I will NOT apologize for this nor will I hold my tongue because you are probably one of the parents that have helped create this huge problem with our children today. The kids are not to blame... You are! If you would just set some boundaries... Then maybe.... Just maybe they wouldn't be getting into all the trouble they get into. Keep an eye on them at all times and stop letting them run over you. Children die everyday from situations they have no business being apart of and could have been avoided if their parents knew the difference of being a parent and being a friend. It's up to you to guide them in life...

Please note... I'm not at all promoting beating your child when I say discipline. I'm against child abuse. I do not consider a little "spanking" to be abusive, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions. If you choose to 'talk it out' with your child...so be it- that's great. My father did that with me as well.... Along with getting popped. He always wanted to get a clear understanding of what and why I did whatever I had did at that time, he would then explain to me why it should never do it again... And I think the whoopin was just for insurance..... Insurance to never do it again :) it worked though!

I'm 100 percent against child abuse....but there is a thin line between disciplining your child(spanking) and beating them. Some people don't know the difference... And therefore... This isn't for you.

So in closing, please be more involved with your child's life. You should know ALL of their friends, every site they visit on the internet, every person they chat with, every location they will be... U need to know everything. It's not invading their privacy as they all say... It's being a responsible parent and protecting your child. I swear I could slap a parent every time there's an amber alert.

How do you feel about this topic? For or Against? How do you handle these situations?


RIP DADDY-------------- I miss you!

Baby Brianna Lopez- Most Brutal Case of Child Abuse

PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS STORY IS VERY GRAPHIC. IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO READ ON CHILD ABUSE CASES... KEEP IN MIND THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST BRUTAL CASES AND YOU SHOULD NOT READ ANY FURTHER. THIS WAS WRITTEN IN THE HOPES OF AWARENESS.






A beautiful baby girl, Brianna Lopez, born on valentine's day of 2002 died a very horrible death at the hands of her own flesh and blood just 5 months after birth. The most horrific child abuse case that I have EVER seen. I've watched videos and read numerous articles on Baby Brianna and it brought me to tears. The 5 month old baby girl was abused and raped by her own father Andy Walters, 21 and Uncle Steven Lopez, 19.  There was also evidence that the mother, Stephanie Lopez had also abused Baby Brianna as well. On July 18th of 2002, Andy Walters, Stephanie Lopez and her brother Steven Lopez, were 'partying' together and drinking. Stephanie states after a few beers she was drunk and fell asleep. Supposedly, while she was asleep in the other room the two men, Andy and Steven began to play a "game" with Baby Brianna by throwing her up so her head would hit the ceiling and then letting her fall straight down to the ground hard! Keep in mind this is a baby!!! It has also been stated that while Andy Walters(the FATHER) was changing the baby's diaper he had placed his finger in the baby's anus.
The mother, Stephanie Lopez was said to have bitten, punched and pinched her daughter.
These two so-called men had both admitted to having sex with Baby Brianna. How could anyone do this? We are talking about a baby here....
Brianna Lopez died at the Memorial Medical Center in Las Cruces on July 19, 2002. -Stephanie Lopez noticed that morning Brianna was not breathing and had called 9-1-1. Wow.... She finally decided to call the authorities after all the things they had done to her but by that time ...it was too late. The autopsy had shown Brianna Lopez had suffered bleeding of the optic nerve, brain swelling, numerous broken ribs,shaken baby syndrome, multiple skull fractures, fractures in both legs, a total of 11 bite marks ..... And bruising all over her body from head to toe.


How can 3 adults... People that were suppose to be the most protective of this little angel... Be the cause of her death? How could anyone look into a child's innocent eyes and still could rape them, abuse them, and take advantage of such a pure defenseless baby? I just don't get it. I'm not naïve to the fact that there are so many sick and heartless people out there... What amazes me is how did they get so many psychos under the same roof who thought this was just ok? It may have been just the 3 of them who were doing the actual physical abuse to this beautiful baby, but there were other adults that resided in this household as well. Seriously? They cannot deny that they knew this was going on. Brianna had been abused all of her short life.
The grandmother and another uncle of Brianna's (who were the other adults residing at this residence) were sentenced to 60 days in jail for failing to report child abuse. Mother, Stephanie Lopez was sentenced 27 years. Father,
Andy Walters, was sentenced 57 years. Uncle, Steven Lopez was sentenced 51 years in prison.
No one had claimed the baby's body, not even her own family. The residents of Brianna's home town, Las Cruces, came together as a unit to claim Brianna's remains and they also attended the baby's funeral to honor her life. Sometime after the burial of Baby Brianna, the family put a "cage" around her grave in order to keep everyone who wasn't family from continuing to bring flowers and visiting the young child's burial site.


Baby Brianna Lopez' story should never be forgotten and it is up to us to make sure this does not happen. If you even suspect abuse whether it is a child, a mother, a grandparent, a friend.... Anyone..... Please report it. You can save a life! Too many people 'look the other way' and if they would have just cared enough.... They could have spared the pain of another human being.

There are so many people that have tried so hard to conceive a child without any luck.... And then you see stories like this where a child was born into a psychotic family and never stood a chance. You just can't help to think "that could have been my child... She could have had a better life, parents that would love her unconditionally, a family that would smile at every little thing she did, watch her grow up and educate her, and watch her blossom into something great."


This baby girl didn't have not one photo taken of her the entire 5 months she was alive. The only photos that were taken of her is from her autopsy. They photo shopped the pictures to get rid of the bruising and bite marks on her face. She was such a beautiful baby girl.


Please do not forget Baby Brianna's story.....


RIP Brianna Lopez
Feb. 14th, 2002- July 19th, 2002   


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